KEEP IT MOVING

There are times in your life where you begin to understand the type of person you are and that's how it's been for all of 2009. I've understood that I do not partake in confrontation despite my hard edge and sometimes in-your-face attitude. I can be a dominant person, but if someone else strolls through with the same personality I cower.

O.K. enough with the beating up myself part, let's uplift Wilder (and yourself). I am pretty damn resourceful and more than willing to take care of myself and my business. I'm also attentive and aware of my situation so I don't let anything fly under the radar.

Having these good qualities can be stressful because I know when it's time to move on. Real life is a constant motion (if you want it this way) and you always have to have a plan. I don't mean career. I mean how are you going to get to work, how much are those snow boots going to cost, and can you break a rule even though you're an adult (oops).


I'm only 23, but I've been told I'm mature for my age. I have a hard time believing that considering my life experience because I have yet to pay a month's rent or really balance a check book ~gasp~

The whole point of tonight's post is this no matter what you're situation is keep working towards something better, it will come. There's plenty of discomfort so find a place to rest your head or someone who makes the sun shine brighter.

Dear Friend,

So, I just got off the phone with one of my dear friends who is struggling in the job department. I know what you're thinking, 'well, aren't we all?' Yes, but this lady has been struggling for the past 3 years since she was handed her degree. Today she said, "I quit."

I think my heart sunk when I heard her say that. Actually, I know it did. I don't know what to say her. It's hard to see such a resilient person defeated. Can't say what sucks more it's either not being able to give any sound advice or not knowing what to do for my-damn-self.

Friend, we have to click the refresh button on our life browser because what we're doing isn't working. It's great to have dreams (sometimes they explode), but sometimes we have to tweek them. Do what you have to do (a 180), which is something out of your usual pattern to get stability. Sure, I still give my keep hope alive speech for the journalism industry, but I have to keep it real. I can have a career that pays and continue with my column and blog.

It's time that you and I step outside of our artistic selves and make a living.
Question: What do you do with creative people (like myself and my friend)?

Answer: You tell them to get a real job.

So Wilder in Real Life and friend have to get "real" jobs. Stay Tuned.

Sincerely,

WRL

The First Snow

It's been about a couple of days since it started snowing here in Chicago. No, it's not anything serious just flurries and the sticky mix of rain. As I look outside the white sheet resembles powder instead of ice. Back at home it snows, melts, freezes, melts, and it's no more.

Today I battled a tame Chicago wind to the Metra with the help of a coworker. I was equipped with my calf length down coat, snow boats, and obnoxious yet warm scarf. I made it back home in one piece, but I have to say this commute is going to be a beast this winter.

Now, that I'm all warm and comfy in my pjs, I look outside and appreciate how beautiful winter can be. I've never had a white Christmas and I guess this will be another one since I'll be flying home. I remember asking Santa for snow as a kid and I never got it. Well I'm in Chicago and have all the snow I could ever want.

Damn Miami sounds good right about now. Meanwhile I'm going to stick a beer in the snow.